What Is The Ego?

The ego, also known as the conscious self, is the center of our conscious awareness and is responsible for our sense of identity, self-perception, and personal experiences.

It is the aspect of the psyche that is most in touch with reality and is developed through our interactions with the external world.

The ego helps us navigate and adapt to the demands of the external world and helps us maintain a sense of control and stability.

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Why Does The Ego Seek Control?

The ego seeks control as a way of maintaining a sense of stability and security in one’s life.

By having control over one’s surroundings and relationships, the ego feels a sense of power and protection from the unknown and unpredictable aspects of life.

It also seeks control as a way of maintaining a positive self-image and avoiding facing uncomfortable truths held within the shadow.

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The Solution Is Shadow Integration

The solution is for individuals to become aware of their ego’s need for control and to actively work on letting go of this need.

This can be done through practices such as mindfulness, self-reflection, and embracing vulnerability and uncertainty.

It also involves recognizing and integrating the shadow aspects of oneself, which can help reduce the need for control and foster a sense of inner peace and authenticity.

Practical Steps You Can Take:

Practice Mindfullness

Set aside time each day to focus on the present moment and observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment.

Self-reflection

BEGIN journaling or start therapy to explore and understand your own patterns and motivations related to control.

Embrace Vulnerability

Take risks and become willing to be more open to new experiences, even if they may not go as planned.

Integrate Shadow

Acknowledge and Accept your mistakes and flaws, while working towards self-compassion and growth.

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Terminology

Control: 
... the power or authority to direct, regulate, or manage someone in order to achieve the controller's desired outcome...

Desire: 
... a strong feeling or craving for something, whether it be a want, need, aspiration, or longing..

Ego: 
... a person's sense of self-importance or self-esteem. 
... an individual's self-perception and the need to maintain a positive image of oneself.  
... plays a role in regulating one's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, often leading to self-centeredness...

Hypocrisy: 
... derived from the Greek word "hypokrisis".
... meaning: acting or playing a part on a stage.
... the pretense of virtue or goodness while concealing one's true intentions or actions.