As an overthinker, I’ve come to realize judgment and contempt often get tangled up in a messy web of confusion.

Contempt is like a souped-up version of criticism. It’s when we take our disapproval to a whole new level, adding a sprinkle of superiority and a dash of disdain towards the poor soul on the receiving end. It’s like our fallen nature’s way of rebelling against the divine order.

When we let contempt rule our hearts, we basically kick God’s authority to the curb and place ourselves on a lofty pedestal. We start thinking we’re better than others, believing we’re superior in every way. And let me tell you, this kind of prideful thinking leads to one thing: a big dose of contempt for our fellow human beings.

Contempt doesn’t just harm the person we direct it towards, but it also messes with our own ability to trust, communicate, and cooperate. It’s like a toxic cloud that ruins any chance of building healthy relationships.

The difference between contempt and criticism.

Criticism is when we express our disapproval or dissatisfaction with someone’s behavior, action, or idea. It’s like saying, “Hey, I don’t think this is the right way to go about things.”

But contempt… takes it to a whole new level. Contempt is when we add that extra spice of superiority and disdain, throwing in some sneaky insults, mockery, and other mean-spirited antics.

Contempt has been discussed and dissected by scholars and philosophers throughout history.

In psychological terms, contempt is considered one of the four destructive behaviors that can predict the demise of a relationship, alongside criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling. It is characterized by a feeling of superiority, disdain, and a devaluation of the other person. When we hold contempt for someone, we perceive them as beneath us, unworthy of respect or consideration.

But what fuels this contempt? It is often rooted in judgment and comparison.

We create standards and expectations for others, and when they fail to meet them, we react with contempt. It can stem from our own insecurities, as we project our fears and self-doubt onto others. It can also arise from a feeling of injustice or a perceived threat to our own self-worth.

It is crucial to recognize that contempt is a destructive force. It erodes trust, creates distance, and prevents meaningful connections from forming. It limits our ability to empathize and understand others’ perspectives, hindering personal and collective growth. It blinds us to the inherent worth and dignity of every individual, regardless of their flaws or shortcomings.

To combat contempt, we must cultivate empathy, compassion, and a willingness to see beyond our own biases. We can start by practicing active listening, seeking to truly understand others before passing judgment. We should also challenge our own assumptions and prejudices, recognizing that everyone is fighting their own battles and deserving of grace.

Contempt is a destructive emotion that reflects our flawed human nature.