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  • Coercive Power —CONTROL

    Coercive Power —CONTROL

    Coercive Control (Power)– an act or a pattern of acts of psychological assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim into conforming.

    Common Types of Coercive Power:

    DIRECT & INDIRECT

    DIRECT

    Straight forward

    Direct coercive power is the ‘in-your-face’ threats and direct ultimatums, leaving you feeling trapped and helpless. But you know what’s happening, there is little confusion.

    INDIRECT

    Manipulative- through the back door

    These types will NEVER say, “Do this or else!” No, they’re far sneakier.

    They instead will use subtle tactics to control and manipulate you.

    Corersion puts you into a hellish maze where every turn is a mind trap, and you can never find your way out.

    With indirect power, it’s about psychological warfare.

    Tactics

    Guilt-tripping

    Using guilt or shame to manipulate individuals into conforming to certain behaviors or beliefs.

    This can involve making individuals feel bad about themselves or their actions in order to control their behavior.

    Threats of Punishment

    Using threats of punishment or consequences to coerce individuals into compliance.

    This can involve threatening to ostracize, shun, or punish individuals who do not conform to certain expectations or norms.

    Emotional Manipulation

    Using emotional manipulation tactics such as gaslighting, manipulation of emotions, or playing on individuals’ fears and insecurities to control their behavior.

    Isolation

    Isolating individuals from their support networks or communities in order to control their behavior and limit their access to alternative perspectives or sources of support.

    Pressure Tactics

    Using peer pressure, social pressure, or manipulation to coerce individuals into conforming to certain behaviors or beliefs.

    This can involve creating a sense of urgency or fear of missing out in order to manipulate individuals into compliance.

    Control of Information

    Controlling access to information or limiting individuals’ exposure to alternative viewpoints in order to maintain control over their beliefs and behaviors.

    Church Members

    Often Play This Insidious Game

    Believe it or not, There are instances where some individuals or organizations claiming to be Christian use coercion in an attempt to control or manipulate others out of concern, usually false concern.

    Why?

    There are various reasons why some individuals or groups within the Christian community resort to coercion.

    This includes

    • a misguided belief that they are acting in the best interest of others.
    • a desire for power or control, a lack of understanding of the principles of consent and autonomy.
    • a misinterpretation of religious teachings.
      • But that’ll be another blog post.

    Never Forget Jesus’ Teaching

    “Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you”

    – Luke 6:28

  • Understanding the Manipulative Behavior of Pathological Liars and Enablers

    Understanding the Manipulative Behavior of Pathological Liars and Enablers

    Pathological liars and enablers can engage in behavior that is not only socially harmful but can also have physical and emotional consequences.

    One of the tactics they often employ is triangulation, a manipulative strategy that involves deceiving others for their own advantage in social dynamics.

    In this blog post, we will delve into the reasons behind their resorting to such tactics and explore the detrimental effects they can have on individuals and relationships.

    The Motivation Behind Pathological Liars’ Behavior

    Pathological liars are driven by a need for control, power, and a sense of self importance.

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    By manipulating the emotions and psychological well-being of others, they temporarily alleviate their own anxiety and bolster their inflated self-esteem. Deception becomes an addictive pattern, allowing them to assert dominance over their surroundings.

    Triangulation, as a manipulative technique, serves as a means for pathological liars to maintain control.

    Through lies and deceit, they aim to influence the emotions and psychological state of those around them, ultimately seeking dominance and power in their relationships.

    The Destructive Nature of Enablers

    Enablers play a crucial role in perpetuating the harmful dynamics created by pathological liars.

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    They often turn a blind eye to the lies and manipulations, unwittingly empowering the liar’s behavior.

    This can be emotionally and socially abusive, as it allows the pathological liar to continue their destructive patterns without consequence.

    The Psychological Driving Forces

    Pathological liars resort to deception as a coping mechanism to avoid confronting their own issues and engaging in self-reflection.

    Their behavior stems from a combination of narcissism, emotional detachment, and a lack of emotional intelligence.

    This leads to a limited capacity for personal growth and an inability to empathize with others.

    Breaking Free from the Grip

    If you find yourself targeted by a pathological liar or caught in the web of their manipulations, it is vital to remember that there is hope.

    The universe has a way of replacing what was lost, often with something even more fulfilling and significant.

    By escaping the toxic influence of a pathological liar and their enabling accomplices, you can find healing and regain control over your own life.

    The manipulative behavior of pathological liars and enablers is driven by a need for control, power, and a distorted sense of self-importance.

    However, by understanding the destructive nature of their tactics, recognizing the role of enablers, and breaking free from their influence, individuals can reclaim their lives and find solace in knowing that the universe has a way of restoring what has been taken away.

    If you have been affected by pathological lying or manipulation, consider seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional therapist who can assist you on your journey to healing and self-discovery.