Forget the fairy tales. Love is grueling, stretching the human soul to its limits, preparing us for our Astral body.
Love is…
Love is magnetism, intent, and persistence. Love isn’t something you stumble upon or passively receive.
It’s often misdiagnosed as lust, infatuation, passion, and other fleeting feelings toward another.
But these feelings aren’t Love.
A Power…
Love is a stand-alone power that can destroy or build entire empires.
Love is a fiery force that must be fanned and stoked to remain, regardless of how intense the passion once was.
Similar to fire, love between two people eventually fades away without conscious effort from both flames.
Eternal love between lovers depends on the fulfillment of self-love and wholeness.
Just as water sustains a garden, self-love nourishes a relationship.
Without a strong foundation—both partners fully embracing their individuality—the soil becomes deficient, and growth in Love is impossible.
A Siphon Without Love
A partner lacking self-love becomes a siphon, drawing from the other’s reserves without the capacity to replenish them.
They drain the wellspring of affection, leaving it barren.
A Force…
Love is a force discovered through magnetism and cultivated through constant connection.
Love is a fire kindled within your own soul—if you try to ignite the extinguished wick of your lover without tending to your own flame, rather than lighting your lover’s wick, you become an energy drain, your love being without reciprocation.
Without this inner force, you cannot give love to another—you can’t offer what you don’t already possess.
Without the Flame already flickering in your heart, there is no spark for expansion.
Simple way to think about it: you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Love Yourself Without Shame
To truly love another, you must first be overflowing with love for yourself.
This isn’t narcissistic self-indulgence, but radical self-acceptance.
It’s about tending to your own emotional wounds, embracing your own imperfections, and cultivating a deep sense of worthiness that comes from within.
… Only then can you truly connect with another.
Tend to Yourself
— Your Self Worth Will Surface to Pour into Your Lover.
Love isn’t traded or bartered.
Love isn’t a transaction, a mere exchange of affection.
Love Is Alchemy
Love is an alchemical transmutation, co-created by two individuals, each radiating their own unique elixir, unifying and processing into one being.
Two souls are transmuted into one spirit.
The process is challenging, requires effort, and must be accompanied by a genuine thirst for knowledge of the one in which love has been ignited in unity between lovers.
Like fire, love must be continuously stoked.
This doesn’t mean perfection, but an unwavering commitment to your own growth.
Falling in love with yourself will maintain the love you share externally.
Like a garden, love takes dedicated care. Just as a garden needs tending, your inner landscape requires constant nurturing.
Embrace Hard Moments
—Don’t Depend on Bliss
Conflict and the demise of love arise when negativity is overlooked and denied, while life’s inherent rhythm is intensified and misdirected towards our partner.
This stems from a sense of possession and reliance on another to complete us.
This is not love, but a dysfunctional hell, spiraling downhill.
Remember, Everything Changes
Embrace the seasons of your soul, the periods of growth and dormancy.
Tips to Make Note Of:
Ignite the flame within: Embrace radical self-compassion. Treat yourself with the kindness you’d offer your most cherished friend.
Ask yourself, “What’s wrong?” Listen to yourself, bounce thoughts back and forth, just as a caring friend would do when you’re feeling down.
Own your story: Your most shame-inducing truth is your most valuable wisdom. If not yet, it will become your strength.
Your scars are not liabilities, but marks of resilience. With battle wounds comes wisdom.
Set fierce boundaries: Protect your energy and emotional well-being with unwavering resolve.
Prioritize radical self-care: Engage in practices that nourish your mind, body, and soul.
When you cultivate love within, you become a beacon, drawing in those who are also dedicated to their own inner growth.
Together, you form a love that is both powerful and enduring, a true testament to the transformative power of self-love.
One response to “Love, Let’s Get Real: Not For The Faint of Heart”
My cup is filled by you – interlocked with you. Particle exchange and transformation- I AM you
You ARE me … WE are ONE.